Anonymous asked: hey, i need help. i've been trying to lose weight since the beginning of the year and i've only lost 5 pounds. i eat healthy for most of the day then i binge eat, a lot. it makes me so mad. but i don't know how to stop. i weigh 155 and my goal weight is 125 but i feel like i'll never make it because of binge eating and my mom buys a lot of healthy food but also my house is full of junk because of my brothers. help?! thank you. x

How do you define eating “healthy”? You need to create a routine that you follow. That’s what’s working for me. An eating as well as work out routine. Workout as much as you can and don’t completely cut “bad” food out because then you’ll just binge like you say you do. Instead of cutting it out and then succumbing to your cravings just continue eating healthy and allow yourself to have a little treat every so often. I usually treat myself with fro yo or frapacinos or something haha. Whenever you’re about to binge just think about how it’ll do the exact opposite of what you want! Think about how guilty you’ll feel afterwards, and instead of binging, just have a little bit. Having a little bit of indulgence, even every day, isn’t going to set you back. It’ll curb your cravings and help you out in the end so yee. That’s what works for me. You can message me if you want any more help

Anonymous asked: That's pretty true. Thank you. I just hate letting him down and I feel like distancing our friendship will let him down. I make excuses for him all the time...

You won’t be letting him down! You owe him NOTHING. You were there for him as a friend, as well as a pawn in his plot for revenge. Distancing yourself will not let him down, it will help you to move on, and feel better. Trust me, it will be hard at first….but know that in the long run you were so much better to him than he was to you and that he doesn’t deserve a girl who will go such great lengths for him if he’s willing to just throw it all away

Anonymous asked: What if I can't put distance between us? This boy literally saved my life a year ago and without him I'm a mess but with him now I'm a mess...

People can change a lot in a year and it seems as though that break up brought the worst in him….obviously he’s made you happy but look how UNHAPPY he’s making you now? How can you want to be close with someone who doesn’t care enough about you to want to treat you well enough to see you happy? All I’m saying is that you deserve better than a guy like that. Maybe if you tried to distance yourself with him then eventually you’d begin to see him as just a friend again. Being in the friendzone means you still can feel good as a friend to him and vice versa, without the complications that arise as a result of there being no “emotional connection” between you two, from his end. 

Anonymous asked: I've been in love with my best friend for a long time, we slept together four times after him and his ex broke up...I was his pawn in his plot for revenge. After all what would hurt more than him hooking up with the only girl she trusted him around? He won't even hug me the same anymore. I told him how I feel and he told me there's no "emotional connection" between us. I don't honestly know how to feel anymore.

I understand how you must be feeling right now and it’s good for you to see the type of guy he is, if he’s willing to use him the way you did. To love someone means you should the way they make you feel when you’re with them. All this guy seems to be doing is using you, making you feel good for the time being, and then completely disregarding your emotions the whole time….he’s clearly not the guy you thought he was if he’s willing to be such a douchebag to someone who obviously cares a ton about him…try to distance yourself from him so you can try to get work towards getting over him because there’s no point in trying to win over a guy who’s a complete douchebag because he’ll just end up hurting you more!! You deserve someone who cares about you and cares about your feelings…not one who’s willing to mess with those in order to seek revenge upon someone else. 

Anonymous asked: hey so I like this guy in my class. We talk and joke about random stuff together but I don't know how to get his number so I can become good friends with him and hopefully more.

add him on fb and start talking to him on there and then casually ask him to hang out or invite him to a jam or something. and if he’s like yeah for sure be like AIGHT text me this weekend and then bam he’ll ask for your number. If you invite him to a jam you’re going to then it won’t be awkward because you guys don’t know each other that well yet ya knowww, you’ll have lots of other people there too so it’d be chills

Anonymous asked: I feel like a couple of my best friends are starting to ignore me. Nothing in particular has really happened, but I've been going through a really hard time with some family stuff and I noticed that they were not around. Were on winter break, and they haven't tried to call me to hangout and its really stating to get to me. I noticed sometimes you give people advice and i was just wondering if you have any. Thanks!

You can’t expect them to be around if you haven’t reached out to them either. Just call them up and ask them to hang out and I’m sure they’ll be down to be there for you, ya know? Because like. How would you expect them to know that anything’s going on in your life if you haven’t given them a chance to? It takes two to tango. Call them up, ask to hang out, and see how things go. That’s what I’d do. I hope things work out with you and your homiezz

Anonymous asked: hi, how do You lose weight

I’ve lost weight by eating healthy, eating when I’m hungry, not bored. No junk food. Eating only whole grains, but not a lot of it. Lots of protein/lean meat. No surgery drinks. Lots of water. Working out when I’m not too lazy. Doing that’s lost me like 34 pounds haha so I’m sure it’ll work for you too. :)

Anonymous asked: i want to kill myself

Woah. Okay. 

Firstly…get help. Talk to someone. Kids help phone is 24/7 1-800-668-6868 and anonymous. Secondly…your life is too special to end, honestly. There are people who love you and imagine how they’d feel if they lost you. Life isn’t something to be taken for granted because not everyone is given the chance to live their life. My friend passed away a few years ago and so I know how it feels to lose someone who you usually see every day. So instead of giving up, take steps towards feeling better because even though things may seem dim right now, they WILL get better, if you strive for it. Try to seek the positives in your life right now and work so that they flourish and outweigh the negatives. Surround yourself with people who care about you as opposed to those who bring you down. Just don’t ever feel like the only option is to kill yourself because I promise you that your life is worth living. I don’t really know what else to say. Also, if you want to come off anon you can talk to me privately, I just don’t want you to lose hope regarding life…

Anonymous asked: so.. theres this guy. i was with him for a couple months. after all those months together he decides to break up with me. i was devastated, but i was doing my best to get over him. a week or two after we ended he made out with my best friend. we hada long talk a week later and everything is good between us now. but idk what to do. i want to at least talk to the kid. but i wouldnt know what to say

Well you could start off by saying that he’s a douchebag for hooking up with your best friend but he’s not the only person who deserves a talking to…your best friend is supposed to be your best friend, that does not entail hooking up with your ex a week after he dumps you. And to be back with him a week after that you really can’t know if you can trust him again yet, you know? He needs to show you that he really wants to be with you and it’s up to him to show that to you, not to you. because you’re worth more than a guy who’s willing to hurt you…firstly randomly breaking up with you and then hooking up with your friend. Talk to him about that and I dunno if he doesn’t seem sincerely sorry then I would probably end it with him if I were you because I couldn’t be with a guy who hurts me like that because I’d never know when he’s gonna pull some shit like that again

Anonymous asked: the boy i like wants to kiss me. But neither of us have ever kissed anyone, and i'm pretty sure i'm going to do it wrong.

It’s impossible to “do it wrong”. Once he grows the confidence to actually kiss you trust me, you’ll know what to do. All I can say is don’t be too aggressive and slobber all over him haha and also, if he’s never kissed anyone else…then you’ll automatically be the best wheelz he’s ever had hehe. But yeah, good luck :) YOU GO GIRL

Anonymous asked: well my bf broke up with me a few weeks ago cause he said he didnt love me the last to weeks we were together. its really hard to believe him cause we were each others fisrt love. & we both lost our virginity to each other. he sais he saw more as a friend but we still kiss and weve done it once after we broke up. & i have no idea if i should let him go or fight for him cause weve talked about this but he says he feels nothing.& ive heard theres another girl. he just really has me confuse. help!

If he says he feels nothing at all….then he probably doesn’t :(

To be completely honest, it sounds like he was just using you for your body. Especially if you’ve hooked up after you broke up and you still have feelings for him you really shouldn’t because it’ll only make it harder to get over him! Which I think you should do because if he says he feels nothing and is already with another girl then he’s probs a dbag and you could do a whole lot better

Anonymous asked: ok so iv been dating my boyfriend for like 3 months now and everythings fine apart from this one thing his ex! he doesnt stop talking about her like he talks about at least once everytime im with him and he always comments on her facebook page like is shes like oh i need to do this ect hed b like oh well if anyone can do it u can type of thing and that leads me to think hes not over her and i dunno how to say it too him?

Either he’s not over her, or they just remained friends…Especially after being with her, I’m sure he still has thoughts about her and seeing as you’re together now, I’m sure he’ll just wanna talk to you about anything and like….I mean that could include his ex. If he treats you like he likes you and not anyone else then you probably shouldn’t worry about it. because if you say anything to him about it it might come off as over protective and suchhh. BUT. If he treats you in any way that would make you think differently, then sure you should say something

Anonymous asked: help me? there is this guy that i think i might like him. I was invited to his house with a bunch of other ppl. He flirted and smiled at me the whole night. He even took pictures of us and fooled around. Then that night he was with his friend but he chatted me on facebook saying a bunch of cute but cheesy stuff. Then we said goodbye and chatted the next day. I forsure thought he was into me, but then he deleted his fb. BUT has my tumblr and were going to see each other on thanksgiving.whatdoido?

Well. He might’ve just been messing around with you if he conveniently deletes his fb right after he sends you “cheesy stuff”. See him on Thanksgiving and see how he acts around you. If he acts like he’s into you then he is, and you could casually ask him about why he deleted his fb haha but if he acts weird then you’ll be able to easily see that maybe he’s not! Just take errr easy girl. :)

Anonymous asked: hey i need advice ASAP! its really bothering me that I'm in 11th grade and i haven't had a boy friend since 7th grade.. its bothering me cause people will ask me if i ever had a bf and i really haven't cause in 7th grade it was nothing. but anyway when people ask me its so embarrassing.. &i really want a boy friend too. like i can just a bout get a guy to hook up with &cuddle with., so ill just be forever alone FOREVER. but what do you think I'm doing wrong here? please tell me the truth. thanks

You’re not doing anything wrong…You can wheel all you want, but if you make yourself seem really easy, then guys aren’t going to take you seriously, if you’ve hooked up with all of their friends. If you meet a guy that you really like and he’s into you too, then I’m sure things will fall into place, but unless you actually have feelings for someone, then there’s nothing wrong with not dating them. Not everyone does. I’m sure you’re a great girl, so don’t say that you’ll be forever alone, because that’s not true! :)

Anonymous asked: (cont) we realised we didnt want things to end, but on that night i was mad and started texting a few other boys, now ive got myself into a situation where i dont know what to do! one boy who texts me always wants to meet me at like midnight and never in the day, he says hes busy or handling stuff, so i dont trust him, i dont know what to do - how do i get rid of this boy to get back with my ex? should i even get back with him? please help!

To be honest you treated your ex like a piece of crap! If you still have genuine feelings for him, then you need to stop your ever so mad wheelz, stop texting other random boys who just want some booty, and devote yourself to your bf. The guy who only wants to chill at midnight, with all due respect, is totaaalllyyy just using you as a booty call. If you feel bad about your ex, and actually care about him and think you’d treat him like you should treat a bf, then talk to him about getting back together, and see if he’s forgiven the fact that you treated him like poop. But…if you’re gonna act like how you did before, and completely not care about hurting him, then I probably wouldn’t try to get back with him if I was in your position, because you’d probably just end up hurting him again